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So, I didn't write about or even comment after the tragic events unfolded in Newtown, Ct. I said naught in regards to the backlash following President Obama's successful presidential campaign. I even sat mute when the 26 yr. old Detroit mother of 5, stabbed her 8 year old daughter to death, even though, from all appearances, the system failed the little girl, as there'd been allegations of abuse, and the department of children's services and the court system had gotten involved.
Today, my cup runneth over and spilleth down the side. I've got to say something, or burst. This morning, I hear on the news, that a 15 yr. old New Mexico teenager is in custody, for killing his entire family, - mother, father, 2 sisters, and a brother. Surely I thought, the teen's life was imperiled, the entire family had somehow ganged up on him, and it was a do or die situation, - he grabbed the rifle and shot. Right? No, totally wrong. The news quoted him as saying
He's only 15, probably some one's loved one, and I'll go out on a limb and say it,
Obviously, he is/was very troubled, possibly suffering from a mental illness. Only someone seriously deranged would 'romanticize' dying in a hail of bullets at Walmart! At the very least, he's got anger management issues. Yes, there is a catch-22. He clearly needed help. Could his parents have gotten it for him? With so few mental facilities, did help even exist where he lived? But....
He killed his family because he was frustrated with his mother???? If he'd been my son, he probably would have been in hell, and I would have been in jail. And I'd bet this wasn't the first time he raised up against his family.
My mother could have frustrated the he heck out of a blind, deaf, mute person! And had she so much as thought I'd even THINK about talking back, let alone doing her harm, I'd have been fodder for some one's lawn! Anyone else raised by NO-nonsense parents? Raise your hands and say Amen!

What exactly is Jesus' middle name? lol
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I think a lot of parents put on blinders when it comes to their kids. They want to believe in the best parts of them and ignore the potentially dangerous ones. I mean, who wants to believe their kid could be bad, or even evil? And I think a large part of that desire to ignore it is because mental illness is still a largely taboo topic. If your kid get a serious disease you don't hesitate to fight it. You're not embarrassed by it. The perception is often that a parent may have played a hand in causing a mental illness and while that's not necessarily true, it keeps people from wanting to confront it. It's very sad.
ReplyDeleteI agree that mental health is still a taboo topic and simply does not get taken seriously enough. It's not about making excuses for peoples' actions, either. We live in a country that seems to thrive on punishment. Other countries seek to remediate and assist those who have been lead astray, either by others or by their own minds.
DeleteWhile it is possible for the parents to have just been wearing blinders this whole time, it's also likely they just didn't know. How many of us are really qualified to distinguish the signs of various personality disorders, especially in someone who (as a teenager) is expected to be acting out somewhat? I think the only thing to do is to make mental health screening part of any normal checkup. We make sure all the other organs are working ok, why not the brain?
H Nell its good to be here, I'll subscribe to your ASAP
ReplyDeleteHi Nell! It's been a while! I agree with you! I raise my hands and say Amen!
ReplyDeleteI'm also stopping by to let you know that I FINALLY posted about the award you gave me a 'century' ago. I know it's taken way too long but I finally got to it! Thanks, BTW!
Wow, what a story. I was raised by no nonsense parent and mark my words, I was seriously wounded just for the look I gave. I sometimes wonder how I made it out alive - but then I was thrown out of the house at 15 yrs old - Thank God. It was a blessing in disguise.
ReplyDeleteI don't even know what to say about this child who killed the whole family. Something must have snapped, but what? It's gonna be one hell of a long road finding out what went wrong. Who would think that their own child would turn on them this way?
Hope you are well Nell, as you haven't written here for some time.